Dec 232010
 

Have you ever seen a picture of a person, and then seen a picture of their spouse.. and thought..

“Holy crap, if they can find a mate like that, then where the hell is mine?”

It’s a trap that single people.. like myself.. fall into… full boar.. it reeks of a lack of self-confidence.

I just had an episode of that today.  I saw this picture online of a friend of a friend of a friend of mine. I don’t know this girl at all, but I saw her picture and she looks almost exactly like chair-people on Wall-E.  The picture was posted by her husband, so I clicked around to find his picture. He looks like a combo of John Stamos and Colin Firth, I kid you not.

So almost immediately I caught myself thinking.. “Holy crap how did someone like that, get someone like him?”

And then I scolded myself for being a superficial bitch.

Do you want to know how a girl like that.. got a guy like that?

She is awesome. That’s how. A little bit like Barney Stinson, she worried less about her self-doubts and more about just being awesome.

I promise you this girl is fun, and fun to be around. How do I know? I know men, and I also know her friends or some of them.

She relaxes and is just herself. She doesn’t spend her time apologizing for not being perfect. She gets up in the morning and embraces herself and her life.

She’s open emotionally. She lets him know when she’s upset before she blows up so they can talk about it calmly, and she is there for him when he needs her.

She fills his life with love, and not expectations. She just lets him be himself and loves him for it. In return, he loves her and allows her to be who she is.

These simple little things are things that I often forget. Reading dating books, women’s magazines, fashion magazines, and what not, doesn’t help things any either. Reading most of those you just start assuming if you’re not a size 2 that you might just plan on being celibate.

Sometimes its easy to forget that there is little point to being thin and gorgeous if you’re miserable and make everyone else miserable too.

Sometimes the best dating tips are the most simple ones:

1. Be Yourself

2. Have Fun

You really should see the pictures of the two of them. They’re happy. Really happy, with a love that shows up so genuine in pictures that you get just a little sugar rush from looking.

I really need to work on worrying less, and appreciating the moments more.

  6 Responses to “First, you have to be happy…”

  1. Amen, sister! You know who you attract when you’re a miserable, hot mess? Other miserable hot messes. Get happy and the happily ever after will come on its own time.

  2. Amen, sister! You know who you attract when you’re a miserable, hot mess? Other miserable hot messes. Get happy and the happily ever after will come on its own time.

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